Until you know who you are, what you want, and what you desire, intimacy with another person can only go so far. But once you begin reconnecting, two of the biggest barriers to desire often rise to the surface: the shame we feel about our bodies, and the resentment we carry towards our bodies, and often towards our partners as well.

The first step to rediscovering libido is reconnecting with yourself

Many women reach midlife wondering “Where did my libido go? How do I get it back? Hormones can be a good place to start - and for some women, they do ease symptoms or make intimacy more comfortable. But libido isn’t just biological. Without addressing the emotional layers - such as stress, disconnection from ourselves, or unmet needs - it’s hard to find that true sense of desire again.

Last week I attended a women’s networking lunch in Sydney, hosted by Collabor8Women.The theme was “Sorry, not sorry.” Such a great topic. It sparked such good conversations about why women, in particular, say sorry so often. Even when there’s nothing to apologise for.

Our Women’s Wellness Evenings are wonderful nights of learning and connection, and a powerful reminder that we’re all navigating our own trials and tribulations when it comes to health and wellbeing.

A few years ago, I opened Netflix to find that my daughter had changed the profile icon for each member of our family. Hers and my husbands were cute fluffy animals.… and mine?

A large glass of red wine.

At some point, and that age is different for all of us, things start to shift. Our bodies, our minds, can begin doing things we never expected.

GP and Menopause Expert Dr. Joanna Bruce shares her golden nuggets on menopause, hormones, and healthy aging. 

If life’s been feeling like a rollercoaster lately, you’re not alone especially if you’re in your 40s or 50s and beyond.

Some mornings, you wake up ready to take on the world. Other days, you just want to stay in bed and disappear.

Sound familiar?

I’ve been thinking about emotional resilience quite a lot over the last few weeks. The kind that helps us handle the pressures of life without snapping, numbing, or spiralling.

A few years ago I went to a chiropractor for a recurring back and hip issue. I’d tried everything including massage, physio, acupuncture so I figured one more opinion couldn’t hurt.

But instead of just treating the physical pain, he started asking me about my emotional state.

“Are you stressed? Anxious? Has anything big happened recently?”

“No,” I said feeling annoyed. “I’m FINE.”